Connection or Disconnection

We all heard that man is a social animal, which I believe is true to an extent. We all want to connect to people. We all want people to listen to us. And sometimes we just want to listen to someone else's story. Even if you believe that you are an introvert, you still does have a small group of people with whom you want to spend some time, may be once in a week or so, if not regular. Well, that's a topic for other day.

What I'm saying is that if you being social is directly proportional to you meeting just that one specific person, whoever it is, is not being social. It definitely does show a connection between you two. It does show a good chemistry between you two. But, it's not the kind of connection I'd recommend anyone to have.

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Now, a very genuine question in your mind might arise, "Why so?"
A simple explanation to that can be, the more you connect with just one person. The more energy you'll give to make that connection better and stronger, which is all good. But if all your focus is on that one person, your group will start to feel neglected. You'll unknowingly separate yourself from all them. And the more you separate yourself from everyone the more you'll invest in the connection with that one person. And the more you invest in him/her, the more you'll feel the need of them being around you. And whenever not fulfilled, you'll go crazy. You'll do things that you can't even think of, just to reach out to him/her. That's why "The more you connect, the more you Disconnect."

But it's not just that. the story is not yet over. God forbid, if unfortunately that one person leave you after all of this, what will happen? How many things you'll loose at once?

First, you lose that one connection in which you invested most of your time and energy. This lose will definitely affect you emotionally and might scare you to ever invest so much in someone.
Second, in the process of making that connection stronger, you kind of lost a connection with your group. Now, you can definitely go back to them and they might understand you as well but things will never be the same again. Plus, as you're going through a lot of emotions you'll always feel the need of someone being by your side which is not always possible. And more than that, you might just start hating yourself for always asking for a support from your friend and you might start hatin them for not understanding you.

Last but the most important, when you'll go through all of this you'll not be the same. You'll lose yourself in the process. You learned a life lesson which is good but sometimes you'll just miss the old you.

At he end what I'd say is "Either be that Someone for yourself or Never neglect you Friends."
The first one is an advice the second one is a suggestion.

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