You Shouldn't Text them...

So, the monsoon is already here and the winter is just the next door. And if you don't already know, what comes with these two is something which we all experience once in our life. Sometimes, even more but that's not the point. The point is how you deal with it or should I say how you embrace "this". Now, if you're a true indian and you love food, "this", that I'm talking about is not the "Garma Garam Chai and Pakode" which definitely come with the monsoon. So, what is "This"?

                          A feeling, an emotion that you have for someone. And no, its not Love that I'm talking about or to be precise the bollywood kind of love. Its about missing someone. Someone who was once very close to your heart or may be who still is. Someone with whom you had a great connection with. Now, it could be Friend, a colleague or may be someone more than a friend. What matters the most is, its rainy outside, cold breeze is comforting you with its soft touch and you start to miss them. Nothing extra, but what you really want when you miss someone, you want to talk to them, to share with them that how you feel about them and that how much you missed them everyday, even though you didn't. You're just missing them from past few days that too because of the weather. Anyways, so you want to talk to them, also want to meet them may be, depending upon the urges you had and how much things around you are making an impact on you. But, and its a really big but with a capital b that's telling you not to text someone when you are actually missing them. You must be thinking, why ? what's the reason ? and that's what this article about. Give it a read and if I do not succeed in impressing you, let me know..

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                         Try, 'cause I know its hard to control something that controls you all the time, specially when it comes to the feeling. That's one of the biggest reason I'm not going to tell how you should stop your mind. 'cause if I've had the answer I wouldn't be explaining you how much important it is rather I'd be making a list on how to do it.
Anyways, so now that you know, you should stop your mind or at least just postpone the decision of having a conversation with that person for some time. Specially if its your ex whom you are missing. Let me tell you what encouraged me to write all this. The reason, the cause, the root of all this.

                          See, when you're missing someone, at this particular time you are so desperate to talk to them and because of desperation you'll try to go moon and back to have a conversation with them without realizing that they have a life to live too. You'll not understand or even think of it that may be this time they are busy or may be between an important work or having a rough day. You'll never think of it. 'cause all you want is to have a conversation with them and this desperation will be visible in your msgs in your words and in the way you'll speak. What it will do, and this is not 99.999 %, is that it will kill the conversation 100%.

                                Now, here is a reason for that too. See, when you are desperate to talk to someone you really don't want to listen to them. All you want is to tell them about your feelings that how much you are missing them, how sad you are or happy and back and fourth. And this look quiet awkward to the person you are so desprate to talk to. Think from their perspective, a moment ago they were enjoying their life lr whatever and suddenly you came with all your feelings, which they have no idea about and that too without listening to them. Its not your fault as well, you just have so much feelings and emotions that you suppressed from such a long time that now all the little time that you get with them, you just want to express it all somehow.

                             But..., again with a capital b, no one, remember no one give a damn about your feelings until or unless its somehow related to them in a good manner or somehow if at the same time, they were also thinking about the same past. If only they were having the same memories about you, they were also just getting crazy about how you two had in the past.Or, there is big possibility in this or which says that if you can take them back to that time when you were close. Close in a way which was positive for both of you because that's how you miss someone, when they are not as close as they were before.

                              Again, I don't know how exactly you can do that but if you succeed in doing so, let me know about the ways and also if you think it was interesting, if not helpful in anyway, share it with someone you're Not missing right now. ;)